Resolving, rather than Rehashing

Issue # 0034

At some point, most couples have an issue that they tend to keep rehashing rather than resolving. Rehashing occurs when one spouse initiates or responds the same way every time the issue arises triggering a seemingly never-ending cycle of frustration over what begins to look like an unresolvable issue.

What complicates matters is that this rehashing and the reactions to it become so predictable that each spouse begins to not only make assumptions about the other person, but also begins to react to their own assumptions rather than the actual words or behaviors of their spouse. This cycle leads couples down a path of frustration, sadness, anger, helplessness, and eventually hopelessness. It tends to create a crevice between couples which expands as the couple allows these emotions to move from one issue to another to countless others.