In the last entry for Great Marriage, I wrote about the basics, and God continued to expand the content. This may read like a refresher; however, if you’re like most people, by definition, the basics are a refresher.
As stated, in Great Marriage, each person takes responsibility for their part of the marriage – the what, where, how, and when of change and growth within the relationship. There is no room for a permanent excuse or an over generalization of normalizing poor behavior. So often in marital counseling, we see couples stuck in a bad pattern, because one or both is stuck in their way of thinking, and they refuse to consider change. Additionally, we see people stuck, because they are rooted and tethered to their personality inventory results.
When it comes to being stuck based on the latter, here are examples heard in my office:
· “God did not wire me to be patient.”
· “I’ve never been romantic, and I’m not going to start now.”
· “I was this way when we married, and that should be good enough.”
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